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What I Want

Well, with all the talk lately of bailing on OkCupid and Ashley Madison, of wailing over the “morally bankrupt” ex’s heinous antics and generally “going negative,” I thought perhaps the prayers and appeals to the universe might work a bit better if I actually delineated what it is I want. I’ll start with the lists I made out in the desert last year and perhaps add a few details.

RELATIONSHIP
I want to be loved.
I want to love someone.
I want a thoughtful man.
I want a man with a great job and enough money to keep us both comfortable.
I want a man who can communicate.
I want a man who gives good massages.
I want a man who is tall — 6’3″ or taller!
I want a man who loves my friends and my family.
I want a man with great teeth and great hair.
I want a man who enjoys puzzles and games.
I want a man who will cherish me.
I want a man who will make me laugh.
I want a man to grow old with.
I want a man who I have great sex with and great sexual chemistry with.
I want a man who loves his work.
I want a man who is a great kisser.
I want a man who is generous.
I want a man with nice skin.
I want a faithful man.
I want a man who is physically and emotionally healthy and strong.

CAREER
I want a job I enjoy.
I want to experience mastery — or at least appreciation and fulfillment.
I want to make a great living — $80,000 a year!
I want my job to be creative and challenging.
I want to work with fun and interesting people.
I want to be in a position with responsibilities.
I want a cool boss — or to be my own boss!
I want a job with flexible hours.
I want a job with great health benefits.
I want a job.

HOME
I want a home.
I want a home I can afford.
I want a little Poodle and wifi and my head vases on a little shelf all around the ceilings.
I want clean floors and a coffee maker.
I want a comfortable bed with a fluffy quilt and matching pillows.
I want colorful walls and stained glass.

As you can see, I have a lot of wants! Seriously, it’s been a long year of trying to figure out exactly what it is I do want. I wrote these lists last September, while holed up in my glamorous Burning Man trailer, a glorified box on wheels. It’s home three months a year, with a reasonably comfortable bed (no fluffy quilt or matching pillows, though!), electricity and a dorm fridge. A veritable palace!

Over the past six or seven months I haven’t gotten a whole lot clearer on what I want and it’s pretty tough to visualize your desires when they aren’t fixed in your mind. So I’ve been trying. I now have a home. The floors are clean, if littered with foster dog hair. I’m enjoying the white walls at the moment so I think I’ll keep ’em. I already had some stained glass and my bed is not only comfortable, it has a fluffy quilt with matching pillows! Of course, I’ve had the quilt and pillows for well over a decade, so they could use some updating.

As for being able to afford the place, well, that’s where the “career” comes in. Or the lack of it. For now I am committed to head out into the desert again and work for The Man. But when I get back it’s gonna be time for some serious soul-searching. I can’t afford to be choosey anymore. If I have to clerk at KMart, I will. Whatever happens, I’ll figure it out. And I’ll be writing this blog, along with a book or two, even if I have to self-publish. It’s been long enough.

Which brings us to relationships. If you’ve been reading — and I know you have been! — you know where things stand. I have to wonder how I’m going to meet this mythical man. I’ve more or less given up on the online dating. The parties I go to are attended, primarily, by people half my age. Any men I meet who are over 45 and not using a fucking walker are so impressed with themselves — “Look at me! I have HAIR!” — and I suppose I can’t fault them; I’m pretty impressed with myself, too! But their confidence means they think they qualify for someone hot and young, not a 50-something broad with a blogging problem.

But I’m doing my best to be positive here, right? I’m trusting the universe to provide me, eventually, with the man who will be by my side when I take my last breath. I’m not in too big a hurry. Well, okay, maybe I am. But realistically, perhaps I’ll find someone when I’m older. Or even older than older. When I won’t turn my nose up at a man who looks like Santa or a guy without any hair. But at least I’m putting my shopping list out there.

I could get really particular and say I want someone who can spell and punctuate, someone with blue or green eyes and a foreign accent. I don’t want to narrow my search down to an impossibility but I also don’t want to settle. If you want the elevator pitch, I want someone who will love my like Eric did, kiss me like Johnny did and fuck me like James did.

There was one more list I made. It’s a list of my attributes. What I believe I have to offer a man.

ABBY-TRIBUTES
I am attractive.
I am talented.
I am in great shape.
I am healthy.
I have a great body.
I have nice hair.
I have good skin.
I have nice teeth.
I have a great sense of humor.
I am witty.
I am smart.
I am clever.
I am funny.
I am experienced.
I am interesting.
I am a good listener.
I am a great story teller.
I am a great conversationalist.
I am sexy.
I am strong.
I am compassionate.
I am understanding.
I am NOT broken.
I am eager to please.
I am passionate.
I am a considerate lover.
I am a great kisser.
I am fun in bed.
I give great head!
I give great massages.
I am great company.
I am vibrant.
I am powerful.
I am gregarious.
I am exuberant.
I am hopeful.

I know you’re out there! Here I am!

Things I’ve Been

Back-blogging and changing the black numbers to blue!

In no particular order:

Punk Rocker
Beach Girl
VW Convertible Bug Driver
Yuppie
Preppy
Writer
Editor
Proofreader
Hat Embellisher
Advertising Copywriter
Receptionist
Software Tester
Computer Graphic Designer
College Graduate
Sandwich Maker
Nightclub Promoter
Event Producer
Psychology Major
Art Major
Journalism Major
Mural Painter
Needlepointer
Trans Am Driver
Dodge Challenger Driver
Minivan Driver
Penthouse Forum Columnist
Fetish Magazine Editor/Publisher
Typesetter
Fanzine Publisher
Advertising Account Executive
Stained Glass Maker
Doodle Maker
Collage Maker
Rhinestone Bejeweler
Airbrusher
Hair Accessory Production Person
Photographer’s Rep
Penthouse Forum Associate Editor
Outlaw Biker Editor
Panty Play Columnist
Catalog Copywriter
Production Assistant
Porn Movie Director Assistant
Porn Movie Extra
Flier Designer
Press Release Writer
Costume Designer
Sign Shop Manager
Stencil Cutter
Sign Designer
Burning Man Theme Camp Wrangler
Sex Party Producer
Singles’ Mixer Producer
Rock ‘n’ Roll Party Producer
Fetish Party Producer
Emcee
Los Altos Knight
Drill Team Member
Lettergirl
San Diego State Aztec
Elton John Fan
Go-Go Dancer Wrangler
Burlesque Dancer Wrangler
Rock Band Wrangler
ErosZine.com Contributor/Columnist
CarnalNation.com Contributor/Columnist/Designer
Sex Toy Reviewer
Porn DVD Reviewer
Rollerskater
Baby Nanny
Clipboard/Door Girl
Stage Manager
Event Reviewer
Fetish Model
Jewelry Designer
Cashier
Waitress
Drunk Driver
Dog Owner
Dog Fosterer
Bartender
Slut
Ad Sales Person
Executive Assistant
Babysitter
Illustrator
Social Director
TKE Little Sister
Blogger

Oh! And WRITER!

I’ll add more as they come to me!